This one idea will dig beneath the surface and often boost your results
Aspects are smaller parts of an emotional issue. They are like puzzle pieces and, until we know how to uncover them, they can be hidden “behind the scenes.” Despite their hidden nature, The Unseen Therapist often resolves them routinely.
But remember, she is limited by the degree of readiness (influenced by The Guard at the Gate) of both the patient and the human therapist. Accordingly, we may need to assist her in bringing some Aspects out of hiding. Therein lies the purpose of this article.
As we uncover these Aspects we bring awareness to them and that, together with the intention to gain relief, notches up the "readiness factor" and better allows The Unseen Therapist to do her job.
So until all of the parts, or Aspects, have been resolved, you may still feel intensity on your overall issue, and it may seem like "Optimal EFT didn't work very well" ... or ... the issue eventually "came back" ... or ... The Unseen Therapist fell down on her job. In reality, the Aspects you have already resolved are often still resolved, and the intensity you feel is coming from the Aspects that remain.
For complete relief on most issues we usually have to confirm that ALL the Aspects have been resolved, and that requires looking a little deeper and finding the individual parts of the issue that may still need attention.
Example: Auto Accident
Here's an example. A client of mine still had trauma symptoms from an auto accident of 20 years ago. When I asked what bothered her about the accident she said,
"The headlights!! The headlights!! I can still see them coming at me."
I then applied the process to the headlight emotion and then, mistakenly, asked her if the accident still bothered her. She said,
"Yes. I am still very tense ... in fact, I'm shaking inside."
So, unless I investigated further, it would appear that my client made no progress and that my efforts "didn't work." But the problem was that I asked the wrong question. I asked about the accident (the broader issue) instead of the headlights (the specific piece, or aspect).
Eventually I figured this out and asked, "Do the headlights still bother you?"
Her answer was, "No, but I can still hear the screams in the car."
Do you hear another piece (Aspect) of the issue? Sure. The headlight trauma was fine; she waved it off like it was nothing. It was resolved beautifully. But now it was the screams in the car (new Aspect) that bothered her. Once the screams were relieved, I found that she still had guilt for driving too fast and held anger at the doctors and lawyers involved. More aspects. Sometimes an unwanted memory can have many Aspects to it and you aren’t done until all of them have been resolved.
Resolving an Event (like the accident):
If the issue you want to address is something in particular that happened in your life, then seeing the Aspects is often straightforward. There are words people said, gestures or tones to go along with them, things you saw, things you heard, emotions you felt, or any other details, all of which could have their own unique levels of emotional intensity.
Whether you’re trying to improve your golf game or have a hard time speaking in public, you should be able to see different parts as they show up. In golf, it may be a particular kind of putt, or it may be a thought in your head just before you hit the ball. For public speaking, you may worry about the size of the audience, something about the location itself, the subject matter, or maybe there is one member of the audience that triggers intensity. No matter what area of your life seems blocked, there are often individual Aspects triggering the intensity you feel. Putting yourself in the actual situation can be a great way to trigger those Aspects and bring them to your attention.
As you work through whatever Aspects you find, other issues or events from your past might come to mind. In that case, they are usually related to your current block, so switching your focus to those older issues will usually provide more powerful results.
Common examples of current emotional issues would be anger management, relationship issues, workplace stress, social anxiety, low self-esteem, etc and they will all have Aspects of their own. Anger management may include all of the individual behaviors or people that trigger the anger. For relationship issues, look for the smaller individual things that irritate you or leave you feeling upset. Social anxiety could bring up particular kinds of situations that are more problematic compared to others.
As a general rule, the more Aspects your issue has, the longer it may take to resolve them. On the other hand, some emotional issues only have one Aspect and it only takes one or two rounds to give them relief. They are among our "one minute wonders." Others, like the accident example above, have many Aspects and require more diligence.
Once you discover new Aspects, resolving them is straightforward. Just address each of them as a separate problem and let The Unseen Therapist resolve it. Be sure that you are now measuring the intensity of the Aspect before and after each round instead of measuring the entire issue each time.
As the intensity from one Aspect of the problem has been resolved, like the headlights in the accident example, your system will often automatically shift to the next Aspect that needs to be addressed, like the screams in the car. The first Aspect will no longer seem important and the new Aspect will gracefully take center stage. If you are looking for Aspects and know how to spot them, this part of the process can be very handy. It can be like peeling layers of an onion because as you resolve one layer, the next one is right there underneath it.
On the other hand, if you are only paying attention to the overall issue, like the accident itself, you may not notice the Aspects as they come and go. The Aspects of the issue will be there behind the scenes, generating intensity, whether you know about them or not. In fact, the intensity you feel on the issue itself may be fluctuating or even going higher, based on the Aspect your system is currently tuned into.
As a result, you may conclude, erroneously, that Optimal EFT “didn’t work” because you simply don’t recognize what has happened. On the contrary, Switching Aspects is resounding evidence that it DID work. It’s just that it can be difficult to see the progress until you break the issue into its smaller parts.
Here is a video showing basic Optimal EFT being used for Aspects
This session with Carrie occurred about two years prior to Optimal EFT's announcement to the public. This makes it particularly useful for our purpose because, like you, I was a beginner at this process. At that time I had not created the name Optimal EFT or The Unseen Therapist metaphor. Instead, I referred to these as Tapless EFT and Spiritual Peace. Nonetheless, you will clearly see the principles in action.
The first half of the video covers some background that is useful for the latter half. Along the way I ask Carrie to identify a Specific Event which, it turns out, brings up a feeling of helplessness. We then find an aspect (anger) and resolve it. You should find this quite helpful.
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